Couples Therapy in Los Angeles for LGBTQ+ Relationships

Alan Meier, LMFT

California Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist #116845

I’m a gay cis male therapist working with the LGBTQ+ community since 2012. I specialize in LGBTQ+ individual and couples therapy, substance abuse and addiction recovery, and anxiety. I received my MA in Psychology at University of the West. I’m trained in EMDR (EMDRIA-Approved Basic Training), the Trauma Resiliency Model and Motivational Interviewing. I have offices in Larchmont Village and on Melrose Avenue near West Hollywood.

Read more about Alan → Last reviewed: May 2026

Helping you and your partner reconnect, communicate and build the relationship you actually want.

Something has shifted between you and your partner and you can’t quite put your finger on when or why it happened.

Maybe the arguments have gotten louder – or maybe it’s the opposite and you’ve both gone quiet, tiptoeing around the things that actually need to be said.

Couples Therapy in Los Angeles for LGBTQ+ Relationships

Maybe the intimacy has faded, or trust has been broken, or you’re just not sure you’re on the same page anymore about where this relationship is heading.

You’ve been trying to fix things on your own. You’ve had the late night conversations that go in circles. You’ve read the articles. You’ve thought about whether this is just a phase or something bigger. But things aren’t getting better… and deep down, you know that what you’re doing isn’t working.

You’re not alone in this, and it doesn’t mean your relationship is beyond repair.

Why work with an LGBTQ-affirming couples Therapist ?

LGBTQ+ couples face challenges that are unique. Working with a therapist who shares your lived experience and who has awareness and insight around relationships like yours means you don’t have to spend your sessions explaining the basics of your relationship — you can get straight to the work that matters.

As a gay identified therapist, I understand the dynamics that can show up specifically in same-sex and queer relationships: navigating open vs. monogamous structures, managing different levels of outness, dealing with family rejection or disapproval of your partnership, the pressures of comparison culture on social media and apps, and the particular ways that internalized shame can erode intimacy and trust.

I’ve been there. And I work with couples who are ready to stop letting those dynamics run the show.

What issues can couples therapy Help with ?

Couples therapy at Positive Change Therapy can help you and your partner work through:

Communication breakdowns — when conversations keep turning into arguments or when important things go unsaid.

Trust and infidelity — whether trust has been broken and you’re trying to figure out if repair is possible.

Intimacy and connection — when the emotional or physical closeness has faded and you’re not sure how to get it back.

Substance use and its impact on the relationship — when drinking or drug use has become a source of conflict or distance.

Life transitions — moving in together, navigating career changes, managing grief, or figuring out the future of the relationship.

Different needs and expectations — when you want different things and need help finding common ground.

What issues can couples therapy help with?

How does couples therapy with me Work?

We’ll start with a free 15-minute consultation so I can learn a bit about what’s going on and you can get a sense of whether I’m the right fit for both of you. From there, we’ll typically meet weekly. I work collaboratively with both partners to understand each person’s perspective, identify the patterns that are keeping you stuck, and develop practical tools for communicating and connecting more effectively.

My approach is direct but compassionate. I’m not going to sit silently while you two repeat the same argument you had in the car on the way here. I’ll gently call out what I’m seeing, help you both hear each other in new ways, and guide you toward the changes you want to make – together.

I offer couples therapy sessions at my offices in Larchmont Village and on Melrose Avenue in West Hollywood, as well as online for couples anywhere in California.

Ready to stop going in circles and start moving forward Together ?

Book Your Free 15-Minute Couples Consultation

Frequently asked questions about Couples therapy

Do both partners need to attend every session?

Ideally, yes. Couples therapy works best when both partners are present and engaged. There may be times when an individual session is helpful, but the core work happens together.

What if my partner is reluctant to try therapy?

This is more common than you might think. Sometimes it helps to start with a consultation so your partner can ask questions in a low-pressure setting. You’re also welcome to begin with individual therapy while your partner considers it.

Do you work with couples in open or polyamorous relationships?

Absolutely. I work with couples across all relationship structures without judgment. What matters is that the structure is working for everyone involved.

How long does couples therapy typically take?

Every couple is different. Some find meaningful progress in 8–12 sessions; others benefit from longer-term work. We’ll regularly check in on your goals and adjust as needed.

Reach out to start
your healing journey Today.

alanmeiermft@gmail.com

Free 15-min Consultation